If you want to fail at network marketing or any home based business, just hold onto your fear of rejection.
You may not realize it, but successful people, top income earners, and leaders all have had fear of rejection, too. The difference is they just do what it takes to move through the fear and do the business activities anyway.
Imagine a business owner who invested in a restaurant, purchased all the tables, food, and kitchen equipment. He took the time to hire staff and create a first class menu. Then when the time came to open the doors for the first time, he said, “Wait, I just can’t do it! What if someone says no to coming in the restaurant?” Sounds silly, huh?
Unfortunately, it’s all to common for someone to invest time and money into a network marketing business, then decide to never ask anyone to take a look at their opportunity or product because they are scared of rejection or looking stupid.
But, if you shift your thinking to that of a real business owner, then there really is no other good option but to move forward with your business.
If you never learn how to push through the fear of rejection you will never have that extraordinary life that you dream about.
If you are in a place of being broke, tired, with nothing else to give, calling people to join you can be intimidating. You probably tell yourself that no one is going to want to join YOU.
Mark Tyrrell, therapist and co-founder of Uncommon Knowledge gives 5 steps to help you squash the fear of rejection for good:
1. Know that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. Sometimes we can create a self fulfilling prophesy or a false idea about a situation that makes the person with the belief act in such a way that the false idea comes true. You wrongly believe your prospect is rejecting you; you become defensive, anxious, perhaps angry. Eventually, these behaviors may bring about the feared rejection which wasn’t there to begin with.
This also gives us the feeling of being right. That “I told you so” attitude. Some people want to just be proved right even if it’s a bad outcome! It validates how they feel.
So to change this behavior first recognize that it’s going on. Then look at how your beliefs are creating your reality. Learn to expect good things are going to happen not the worst that can happen.
2. Start thinking about how you want to feel not what you don’t want to feel.
Most of the time our minds untrained can automatically go to the negative. We worry about how we don’t want to feel rejected, or look stupid. Taking the time to create a vision with a feeling of how you do want to feel is an important first step to focusing on the positive instead of the negative. So how do you want to feel? Assured, confident, successful? Focus on that!
3. Try and figure out how your fear of rejection began.
This may sound opposite of what was said above, but taking a quick look at your past can help you move forward. Do you ever remember feeling rejected as a child, or a teen that made you feel terrible about yourself? Take a moment and write down what you would say to that child. Now that you are grown what advice can you give your inner child? This may sound weird but it has a powerful effect on how you move forward.
4. Fear is an emotion before it’s a thought.
Learning to control our emotions and acting by thinking instead of how we feel can give us just enough to show ourselves that the fear usually isn’t real. To me, this one discipline is the difference between success and failure.
5. Question what rejection really means.
If a man discovers a diamond in the earth but, through ignorance or short-sightedness, believes it to be a worthless stone and so casts it aside, does this tell us more about the diamond or the man? Whether someone rejects someone else can tell us so much more about the ‘rejecters’ than the rejected.
Consider what people have rejected:
- Life-saving medicine.
- Signing a contract with the Beatles.
- Publishing the (eventual) bestselling book Catch-22 (which was rejected by 21 publishers and wen on to sell 10 million copies).
- Vincent Van Gogh’s paintings.
- Wonderful partners.If someone does ‘reject’ you, don’t inevitably feel it’s because you’re ‘unlovable’ or ‘destined to be alone’ – because what they’ve done is give you very clear feedback about…themselves.
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